On a quiet January evening in 2017, while sleeping I had a dream, a very vivid dream. I was standing in a crowd, surrounded by hundreds of women in New York City and there was a lot of – PINK! We were all gathered listening to Sarah Jessica Parker who all in her strong female glory was empowering each and every one us to live the best life we possibly can while learning to ignore all of the negative connotations our own mind and society distracts us with. I now refer to this dream as my Pink Power Dream, and it is something I remember when the negative thoughts try to take over
The part of the dream that has stayed with me the most is hearing SJP say “Don’t let the opinions of others stop you from being the best YOU” It is such a powerful and true statement, I’m sure she had more wisdom to impart upon me but my alarm decided to take me away from my slumber and inspired me to start my day empowered and ready to take on anything.
Little did I know what the next year would have in store for me and how this dream was my new beginning. Shortly after the Pink Power Dream I began the most incredible yet heart wrenching journey of personal growth into what I now call stepping into my strength and learning that I am enough.
I found myself facing the dreaded D word. Divorce. I was on a never-ending emotional rollercoaster and lived most of it inside my own mind. It was like I was in a straight jacket fighting to get out. As I moved through the stages of grief, after months of tears and uncertainty, something shifted within me. I somehow began practicing intense self-love. I was re-claiming myself, my self-worth, and my life in a way that I had never done before. I have no idea how I even got to this point…It was as if my “inner superhero” kicked in.
My inner superhero is She-Ra. She exemplifies strength, femininity, sensuality, and a fierce heart. Her superpower is compassion. During that difficult period in my life, I had a phrase I said to myself daily: “Megan, at the end of the day you are ENOUGH.”
What do those three little words actually mean?
Brene Brown the awesome vulnerability guru writes in her book Daring Greatly that the universal tendency to fixate on not being “enough” is a mark of true vulnerability. Brene’s work does not propose a “cure” for vulnerability but exposes ways to live in uncertainty with a little more ease.
It is not the people that ignore vulnerability that overcome it, rather, those that have the courage to live in imperfection. Brene calls these “whole-hearted” people. No matter where you are in your career, relationship, or self-discovery, there will always be the unknown. Whole-hearted individuals embrace this uncertainty and accept themselves for where they are in the process.
Whole Hearted people accept that they are enough. They let go of preconceived notions of who they should be, or where they should be at in their life and learn to love who they are in that moment.
I AM ENOUGH. These three words bring me back to my Pink Power Dream and Sara Jessica Parker screaming to the crowd “don’t let the opinions of others stop you from being the best you!” To me, being enough means that I am great the way I am and I’m worthy of happiness, love and respect. These simple words come from a deep, little secret space in my heart. It took a lot of time and tears to finally come to this humble, understated, beautiful, deep-down belief. From accepting and really believing that I am truly enough came deep transformation, strength and self-love.
How does one actually accept that they are ENOUGH?
All of your thoughts, feelings, experiences and results throughout your whole life have led you to believe certain things to be true. With all of this “evidence” backing up your belief, no wonder changing a belief is hard!
Simply saying I AM ENOUGH is not going to have any significant effect on your life. You need to FEEL it. It’s about embodying what you’re saying. It’s a hard thing to describe, but you want to physiologically get your mind and body to truly believe it when you say I AM ENOUGH!
Write it with lip stick on your mirror, put it on a sticky note, tattoo it on your body (yes I went as far as to have those three little words forever inked on my collar bone), do whatever you need to do!
It took me repeating these words in my mind and seeing these words throughout my day for me to really begin to believe it. I continue to repeat this phrase every day because when I do I feel empowered, worthy, loveable, and confident.
Remember that your thoughts create your reality! So practice this affirmation or whatever affirmation truly speaks to your heart daily to effortlessly tap into your subconscious, and soon you’ll feel the powerful effects of reprogramming your mind for success.